by Beth
This post has been a long time coming – I just needed a little time to figure out exactly what to write. And here goes:
After four years in a relationship, I am now single.
The full truth behind the recent move to Dupont Circle is that I moved out of the apartment that I’ve shared with Wil for the last two years of my life, and into a studio by myself.
While I feel completely comfortable sharing my own perspective of the relationship and the breakup here on my blog, I don’t think it’s fair for me to go into too much detail about it for Wil’s sake.
What I will say is that its been a long time coming. I have changed SO MUCH over the last four years, and it caused my relationship with Wil to become quite strained. We were working completely different schedules, pursuing different hobbies and interests, and caring about different things. It came to a head mid July after my birthday trip to the Shenandoah Valley, and we continued to live together while I looked for a new place. We are currently on as good of terms as could be expected, which I am definitely grateful for.
While breakups and change can be extremely difficult and challenging, I truly believe this it is the right thing for me right now.
That said, you’ve probably noticed the content of my blog has remained pretty upbeat over the last several months even though things haven’t been that great on the home front – and that’s just it, things in my life are going really well right now.
I feel like I’m truly getting the hang of healthy living.
My day job is going extremely well and I even just got a promotion!
I am going to Chicago for leader training for Weight Watchers in October.
I am pouring myself into this blog and good things are coming from it, including two full page spreads (!!) coming out in two different magazines this month and next.
I am truthfully in a really great place right now, and Wil and I just found ourselves on completely separate pages, so it was time to move forward, in separate directions.
I’m living by myself for the first time since college, and I’m not sure that even counts because I lived in an apartment building where tons of other college kids lived, one of which was my ex boyfriend, so I was never really alone. I’m actually really enjoying living alone – its fun to be on my own schedule, go to bed when I want to, decorate how I want to, and just do whatever I want. The other night I was so exhausted from moving that I fell asleep on my couch reading at 9pm and didn’t wake up until 8am the next day! It was pretty amazing.
And you know? Not that much feels different. Wil worked so late most days that I spent my evenings alone or with friends anyways, and mostly cooked for myself as it was. I woke up before him to go running or workout in the mornings, and if anything I just go to bed a little bit earlier since no one is coming home late to distract me! The hardest part is Sundays, because that was “our day” – the one day a week where we actually got to spend time together.
As you probably know, September is an EXTREMELY busy month for me. I am out of town for 8 days, back for one day, and then back out of town for another 4 days, so time is just going to fly by for me. I think keeping busy is the best thing for me right now because it keeps me distracted and focused on the good things going on in my life.
With all this said, one thing I am especially proud of is that I’ve been able to stick to my healthy habits rather than eating my feelings, which would have been very easy for me to do in the past. I feel like I am on a good path right now and am honestly excited to see where it leads. =)
