RIP Baby Tristan Livore

There’s no easy way to say this, but this weekend was really, really tough and one of the saddest things I could ever even fathom experiencing. I went up to Philly on Thursday to help out my sister and her husband, Wendy and Justin, and to visit my teeny nephews. Wendy was feeling pretty under the weather so I just helped them with mundane tasks like laundry, cleaning, cooking, taking care of the dog, etc. Then, Saturday early afternoon, the call came. Tristan was not doing well, and was likely not going to make it.

Wendy and Justin had to rush to the NICU, and Justin’s mom, Beth, and I went to meet them shortly after. What followed was one of the saddest and most heart wrenching experiences that I could ever even dream up. Justin and Wendy got to give Tristan his first and last bath, and hold him for the very first time. Their pastor came and baptized him right before he passed, and it was so special to get to be a part of it, but so, so devastating to be there as my sister lost her baby Tristan. Luckily Harper is doing extremely well and we’re hoping that Tristan continues to watch down from above and protect his baby brother. Please, please keep praying and sending positive thoughts and vibes for my sister and her family – – they need it more than ever.

I know this is a very tough topic and something no one wants to even think about, but this blog has served as my journal in a lot of ways to vent my frustrations and share my triumphs, and this is obviously the most important thing to me right now.  It feels very weird to be back at work today and have to function like normal after experiencing such a tremendous loss, but I am here and trying to keep trucking along.

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  1. Carolyn @ lovinlosing
    October 11, 2010 at 11:30 am (10 years ago)

    I’m so sorry your family is going through this. I couldn’t even imagine. Thoughts and prayers your way.

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  2. Katie Photiadis
    October 11, 2010 at 11:31 am (10 years ago)

    Beth, I’m so sorry for you and your family’s loss. I can’t imagine how tough it is for you to be at work right now. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  3. Sydney
    October 11, 2010 at 11:33 am (10 years ago)

    Oh, Beth.. I am so sorry. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

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  4. Katie
    October 11, 2010 at 11:49 am (10 years ago)

    No words to describe the sincere sadness I feel for you and your family and the pain you are suffering. Sending prayers above…

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  5. sian
    October 11, 2010 at 11:52 am (10 years ago)

    My thoughts are with your family today. I am very sorry to hear about your loss.

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  6. Maria
    October 11, 2010 at 11:53 am (10 years ago)

    Beth, I am so so sorry for your loss. I will keep your family in my prayers… he is now another angel looking down on your family….

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  7. Summah
    October 11, 2010 at 12:05 pm (10 years ago)

    I’m so, so sorry Beth…I’ve been through this with a few friends, and losing a child/infant is so difficult. Praying that you have the strength for yourself and your sister. Be strong for her. We’re all here for you.

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  8. amystartstorun
    October 11, 2010 at 12:07 pm (10 years ago)

    I can’t even imagine how hard this is for you and your family. I’m sorry for you loss.

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  9. Amy @ Second City Randomness
    October 11, 2010 at 12:09 pm (10 years ago)

    Oh sweetie, I’m so so sorry. I’m definitely keeping you in my thoughts and have all the well wishes in the world for your family!

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  10. Sara
    October 11, 2010 at 12:12 pm (10 years ago)

    Lifting baby Tristan in prayer. I am soo so sorry to hear about your families loss. We will be keeping your sister and brother in law in our thoughts.

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  11. April
    October 11, 2010 at 12:24 pm (10 years ago)

    I am so sorry. My heart dropped when I read the title. 🙁 I hope and pray that baby Harper keeps on fighting.

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  12. Lisa
    October 11, 2010 at 12:27 pm (10 years ago)

    I was so sad when I read your post on Twitter. My heart goes out to your whole family. I cannot even imagine the pain your sister is going through, and how Harper will feel when he’s older and finds out about his brother. 🙁 Hugs to you and your whole family!!!

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  13. Danielle
    October 11, 2010 at 12:30 pm (10 years ago)

    I am so, so sorry for your loss. Stay strong!

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  14. Katie
    October 11, 2010 at 12:32 pm (10 years ago)

    My heart just dropped when I saw the title of this post. There are never really words that can adequately comfort someone, so I just want you to know you and your family are in my thoughts today.

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  15. Lisa
    October 11, 2010 at 12:40 pm (10 years ago)

    I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts today.

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  16. Victoria
    October 11, 2010 at 12:46 pm (10 years ago)

    I’m so sorry to learn of what you and your family are going through. I’ll keep you all in my prayers. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be.

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  17. thekitchenbitch
    October 11, 2010 at 12:58 pm (10 years ago)

    My heart goes out to you and your family Beth. Your family will be in my prayers.

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  18. Jennifer
    October 11, 2010 at 1:46 pm (10 years ago)

    I’m so sorry. I hope your family is able to find some strength in each other during this tough time. Your family is in my thoughts. Continued prayers for Harper.

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  19. Michael
    October 11, 2010 at 2:19 pm (10 years ago)

    Beth I am terribly sorry for the loss to you and your family. My sincerest thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  20. amanda june
    October 11, 2010 at 2:34 pm (10 years ago)

    Beth, I am so sorry to hear about Tristan. Don’t feel bad for sharing about it here — thanks for letting us walk with you in a way. Will take a moment right now to pray for your sister, you, and your whole family.

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  21. Lori (Finding Radiance)
    October 11, 2010 at 2:56 pm (10 years ago)

    Beth, I am so sorry for you and your family. My condolences to all.

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  22. Monica
    October 11, 2010 at 3:11 pm (10 years ago)

    Beth I am so so so sorry to hear about your loss this weekend. I will be thinking and praying for you and your family. It is never easy to try to return to a “normal” schedule when something like this has happened, and the only advice I can give is to take things piece by piece and when you need to let yourself think about it or grieve – do so. Take care!

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  23. lizard151
    October 11, 2010 at 3:16 pm (10 years ago)

    I’m so sorry Beth.

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  24. ActiveEggplant
    October 11, 2010 at 5:38 pm (10 years ago)

    I am so sorry for your loss Beth. Baby Tristan may have been on this earth for a short time, but he has impacted all of our lives – yes, even those of us that have only read about him. My thoughts are with you, Wendy & Justin and the rest of your family, and with Harper as he continues his fight.

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  25. greensandjeans
    October 11, 2010 at 8:53 pm (10 years ago)

    I am so sorry Beth. I’ll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

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  26. Ashleigh
    October 11, 2010 at 9:02 pm (10 years ago)

    Hi Beth, I am so sorry for you and your family. Reading this post made me so sad. I can only imagine how heart breaking something like that can be. I hope you guys are ok, and you are in my thoughts.

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  27. Tina
    October 11, 2010 at 9:56 pm (10 years ago)

    Oh my goodness. My heart just aches thinking about the pain they must feel, along with everyone in your family. That is something no person should ever experience. Your family will be in my prayers.

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  28. Ivie
    October 11, 2010 at 10:25 pm (10 years ago)

    Beth,
    I am so sorry for you loss. My thoughts and love are with you and your family. I can’t imagine such an experience and hope you are all doing well.
    With love,
    Ivie

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  29. Marika
    October 12, 2010 at 6:49 am (10 years ago)

    Oh no… that is heartbreaking. My prayers are with you and your family.

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  30. Mb
    October 12, 2010 at 9:37 am (10 years ago)

    Oh this is so sad to hear. Very sorry for your loss. Keeping your sister and her new family in my prayers.

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  31. Lora
    October 12, 2010 at 11:30 am (10 years ago)

    I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  32. Jamie
    October 12, 2010 at 2:12 pm (10 years ago)

    That literally made me tear up. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

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  33. tropicaleats
    October 12, 2010 at 2:35 pm (10 years ago)

    Beth my wonderful roomie, I am SO sorry about this. UGH I don’t understand why these things happen to good people. I can’t imagine what this feels like.

    Thinking about you and your family! If you need anything.. to talk.. or get anything out., just let me know.

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  34. librarianlizzie
    October 12, 2010 at 9:56 pm (10 years ago)

    Beth,

    I’m so sorry that you and your family are going through this right now. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.

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  35. biz319
    October 13, 2010 at 2:53 pm (10 years ago)

    Beth I am so sorry to hear about your nephew – that is about the saddest thing I can imagine.

    Hugs to you and your family at this time!

    Biz

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  36. shiningeyes
    October 14, 2010 at 7:54 am (10 years ago)

    Oh no. I am so sorry, Beth. 🙁 You & your family, especially your sister, will be in my thoughts & prayers.

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  37. jd
    October 19, 2010 at 9:53 pm (10 years ago)

    I just read about your loss… I am so sorry to hear about this. Your sister is in my prayers.

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  38. Ang
    October 22, 2010 at 11:58 am (10 years ago)

    Sorry this is so late! I just read this and I am so, so sorry for your loss! I will be praying for your family and especially your sister. My favorite cousin lost a baby four years ago and is so hard and unfair!

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